***** SPOILERS GALORE!!!*******

So, this is going to be more of a response to all the negative feedback this drama has gotten instead of an actual review. And it’s LONG so bear with me.

I just watched this for the 2nd time and I might have liked it more the 2nd time around.

I think people completely miss the point of the entire drama and the message it sends throughout. It’s about forgiveness and letting go of hatred and anger and choosing to make drastic changes to yourself to be good to, and live a happy life with, your loved ones.

The drama makes a firm fine line right down the middle of people bad people who choose to continue to hold on to their selfishness, hate and anger, and those who finally realize how bad they truly have been but choosing to accept the chance they’ve been given and changing themselves for the good. Standing on that line are their loved ones who make them face their bad behavior, give them a chance to change and fix things and motivating them to do so with their love. In the end the loved ones continue on to live long happy lives with those who’ve changed, putting the past behind them, but completely cutting out those who chose not to change from their lives, even as they forgave them as well.

That’s EXACTLY how it should be!

Too many viewers got so caught up in ML’s horrible behavior once it was exposed, even going so far as to say the show let them off or made light of it. IT DID NOT. Not at all.

In fact ALL of the bad behavior in the drama - with the exception of a whole lot of dumb, dangerous and even disrespectful behavior of the FL - was shown to be wrong and intolerable. To say they made light of that behavior is extremely inaccurate. They drama acknowledged how scary and disturbing the ML’s behavior was, and the FL did NOT forgive him easily but - not at all. However, not only was she already in love with him but, a major part of the FL character’s personality was her extremely forgiving, trusting and accepting behavior. So it would make LESS sense to show her not being willing to at least try to really get through to her HUSBAND to help him realize just how wrong and scary, his behavior was, so they could still at least have a chance at making the marriage work. It was clear that she would have left him (exactly as she did) if he didn’t change his ways. And his behavior wasn’t because he was crazy and obsessive. It was made clear that behaving that way is what he was taught and shown, so he truly didn’t understand that it was wrong. FL (and to some extent his best friend) was able to finally get him to understand, so she could then give him a real chance to prove he could change his ways. When he clearly was still not getting she even said that she questioned the point of continuing to try if he didn’t even see why his behavior was wrong. But once he did she was able to give him that chance which he took her up on and did! COMPLETELY! Not once did he behave in any of those ways again. That’s how it SHOULD be. We’re talking about families and loved ones here. Real love. Not that weak shit. I say again, they were MARRIED, and both believed very strongly in the sanctity of marriage so OF COURSE they would, and did, give it their absolute best to make it work before walking away.

Those around him saw the goodness in him so they were willing to give him a chance and he didn’t let them down. That’s a beautiful thing!

Same goes for 2nd ML’s very abusive father. They (and even the character himself) acknowledged how horrible he’d been to his son all along and how wrong that was. But, again, this drama was about forgiveness and 2nd chances.

The ones that took those chances and changed themselves for the better - the ML, the best friend’s father - were accepted and completely forgiven. They ended up having wonderful relationships with those characters.

Then there were those who couldn’t let go of all their toxic behavior - the spoiled princess who just couldn’t accept being told no, the severely disturbed and damaged half brother who clearly didn’t know how to manage his anger and pain (not surprising with the parents he ended up with once his real mom died), and the selfish as fuck mother of the ML. Even the girl who was FL’s assistant who chose to continue to follow the step-brother, clearly choosing to continue on the wrong path as the FL literally, clearly tried to show her during the kidnapping! How viewers didn’t get this is insane to me!

Anyway those characters, while forgiven (so they could really let them go and move on from them) were completely cut out of their lives one by one.

That ABSOLUTELY shows the horrible behavior being addressed!

In fact, that the ML could be as good to FL as he was was actually a miracle with his upbringing, neglect and those fucked up genes is itself a miracle.

I will say though that too many of the FL’s bad decisions and actions went completely unaddressed. Walking into a strange man’s house (she’d literally only met him once before when she bought a tie from him) and then going into his house to cook for him - again, a complete stranger! - is the dumbest, most dangerous thing I’ve seen in a while? What woman does that? That’s just begging to be raped or kidnapped or both. And then running to his house in the middle of the night in LINGERIE and then getting drunk and falling asleep?!!! WTF?! First of all you are a married woman. Why tf are you even running to another man dressed like that? Completely inappropriate! But…ummm, rape much? None of this was even remotely ever addressed. And then! Promising her husband to stay away from his step-brother but then, the next day! - doing exactly the opposite because you didn’t want to offend him?? Like WTF woman?! Knowing how her husband felt and having PROMISED that was just wrong on so many levels. THIS is where the drama was inconsistent - she valued marriage but her actions showed a lack of respect for her husband, even for Western culture. In Eastern culture it’s flat out madness!

It’s unfortunate that so many viewers missed the point of this drama completely. It was actually extremely well done. It sent a good message and did so right in your face. But, somehow, people still got completely caught up and stuck on the bad behavior, and missed the positive message entirely! Which, when you think about it, is pretty ironic given what that message was.