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My Unfamiliar Family korean drama review
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My Unfamiliar Family
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by marcello
aug 3, 2022
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Geheel 5.0
Verhaal 5.0
Acting/Cast 5.0
Muziek 5.0
Rewatch Waarde 5.0
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Contrary to other reviewers, I felt very little sympathy for Eun Hee, and appreciated her sister quite a bit. I don't mind cold and dominant female character, particularly when they don't bs around, while I mind someone with a sob story acting timidly and then becoming the very thing she hates (the caveat being revenge, but here she does it against someone that never did anything to her, more on this later). Her sister's husband at least had the excuse that he couldn't change his nature (though that's not a blank check to do whatever he wants), while in her case, the affair was entirely superfluous, given her sleazy boss would soon leave his ex anyway -there was no reason to demean herself and become the scum she hated and broke things off with her long time friend over, by being willing to hurt and humiliate someone she had never met over a whim-.

I felt zero sympathy for Eun Hee, given that she was completely ready to hurt and humiliate someone she had never met and that had never done anything to her, for a self absorbed whim. She was not head over heels for her boss (not that it would have changed anything), she had just started the unwise choice of sleeping with him without knowing he was involved with someone else. Once she knew, there was no reason to continue the affair, or even for this to be an affair, given he could have broken off things with his girlfriend, which he did shortly after. This is in the context of her having broken things off with her long time friend and ultimate "lover" exactly because he was civil to her cheating ex and his "other gf", who they correctly considered scum. Then I am supposed to treat her seriously when she becomes the "other woman" she hates for the sake of someone who objectively speaking was much worse than even her ex (a serial cheater, a boss that would not only bed his new subordinate, but even try to touch and bed a drunken coworker, which was creepily rapey)

The fact that people do this in real life is really not the point. More poignantly, *some* people do this in real life, while others (the majority, statistically speaking) never do nor would consider. Her friend/lover being one of them. See her cheating boyfriend that everyone treats, correctly, like a scumbag. The fact that such people exist is really a non sequitur. So do wife beating drunks. Or serial cheaters like her boss (if that was not creepy enough, the allegation of his rape-y attempt to take advantage of a drunken colleague certainly was).

I don't see her not caring about the rumors as a sign of courage and taking responsibility for her own actions, on the contrary the use of the word "bold" makes it seem like she thinks this is brave of her, rather than she understand how shameful her behavior was. Taking responsibility for her actions would have involved actually apologizing to his ex girlfriend (who had some empathy for: given the fact Eun Hee didn't care at all about her well-being, it's hard to see why she should *not* have told her exactly, in clear terms, how little she thought of her; more generally, wrt her being vindictive, this was her attitude towards someone she correctly saw as an enemy who didn't care a bit about her suffering, in order to satisfy a whim, and if she didn't care about hurting her, it's hard to see why she should show her any consideration... that said, I don't like this attempt to "fight" for the sleaze, particularly given how she, rather absurdly, said he had a "habit" of "cheating on her a bit" (like being a little bit pregnant or drinking a bit of poison... it's almost as if she is saying that he has a bait of walking a bit after dinner: this to me speaks of low self worth). And why would she even try to get him back? No seriously, but why though? A serial cheater and a sleaze that not only sleeps with a new subordinate, but allegedly in a rapey fashion tries to put his hands on and follow/bed a drunken coworker?

Regarding the rumors, ultimately, a scumbag, say a corrupt politician, brazenly flauting their bribes without caring for the rumors is not an admirable thing, nor is it taking responsibility in any adult sense. So in the case of her ex boyfriend or her current sleazy boss not caring of the rumors caused by their affairs. So with her hurting someone she didn't even knew for a whim.

In short, any sympathy I felt for her for her boyfriend's disgusting actions went out of the window when I saw her behave in exactly the same way (anyone with a shred of self respect and sense the sleaze she had been dating when he told her he was in a long term relationship would have bailed... then again, if this is the kind of person she turned out to be when the rubber met the road, probably low self worth is not a wrong feelings to have). Her boss was a creep, and I didn't like that they kept any sort of contact after their breakup.

All in all, I didn't think she deserved her friend/real lover at all. Not because she did anything *to* him, but because she was the kind of person that would hurt and humiliate someone she didn't know for a whim, while he was someone that would never even consider this (and he told her as much, not to mention chasing away her ex's other gf and beating her ex bf up, and correctly considering the two of them as scum). So, he obviously deserves to be with someone with the same conviction (and statistically speaking, most people are -even without her experiences with cheating, anyone with just a shred of self respect or a barely functioning moral compass would have broken things off once she was told the boss was in a relationship-). That she is exactly this kind of person (who, in the form of her ex's other woman, he and Hee correctly regarded as scum) does not bode well for the future and makes her rather unsuitable for him. He deserves someone that, like him, would never entertain this, and most people he could chose, statistically speaking, wouldn't.

Actually, we can add her sleazy/rapey boss being in her life after the breakup, without really having to own up to his actions in any concrete way, having everything he did swept under the rug, and thus ending up in the "circle" her long time friend would have to be in if he was in a relationship with her, as another reason I don't particularly like the idea of Chan Hyuk being with her. Again, we know what he thinks of such people. The same thing Hee thought about them, when he was their victim, before turning into what she hated for no reason at all.

The fact I didn't like Hee made me like her cold/calculating sister. I can see how the fact her husband was gay could have made things easier for her, because it was out of her hands. Related specifically to the sexuality bit, I sympathized with the husband, though this is not an endorsement of his entire behavior.
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