Nu Shen De Dang Da Zhi Nian (2024)

If you have sisters, you will understand this drama.

This drama delivers what you’d expect from a family-centered story: generational tensions, gender dynamics, and deep-seated familial ties. At its heart, it’s about the complexities of relationships, particularly through the lens of female experiences. While it successfully explores some heavy themes, including domestic and emotional abuse, the execution left much to be desired at times.

The portrayal of abuse is raw and unflinching, which is both the drama’s strength and its weakness. On one hand, it sheds light on the insidious nature of emotional manipulation and the long-term impact of domestic violence. The writer deserves commendation for daring to tackle these sensitive issues with nuance. It brings much-needed awareness to topics often overlooked or glamorized in entertainment. The scenes involving the characters’ attempts to rebuild their lives or confront their abusers are particularly poignant, making you reflect on the resilience it takes to break free from cycles of harm.

However, the pervasive gaslighting throughout the show detracts from its overall impact. While it’s realistic in portraying manipulative dynamics, it becomes exhausting to watch. Scene after scene of characters denying each other’s realities and twisting the truth feels overwhelming and repetitive. Instead of deepening the narrative, it often stalls the story, frustrating the viewer.For example the middle sister is constantly gaslight by her family, no one takes her struggles with her lazy,bum of a husband seriously. No one listens to her or tries to understand her. She is the strongest sister but has the worst storyline.I would have loved to see her evolve and not get tangled up or emotionally manipulated to get back with that man. Everyone just kinds of tries to undermine her decision to divorce the husband. Don't even get me started on the mother-in-law always shouting. In the end her sisters were encouraging her not to allow her husband to slack around the house but, then why get back with a slacker.

The first sister's marriage was also kind of dead and cold. I know what that guy did was wrong but she always acted like she was in a business transaction rather than a marriage. Always doing the finances, the kids etc.

The youngest sister was portrayed as independent but so naive that you can't even reconcile those two sides of her. I do appreciate that she became friends with her sister-in-law, but she was always being expected by the sister in law to stand up to her brother on her behalf.


Despite these flaws, the drama has standout moments. The women in the story, though flawed, are complex and relatable, and their journeys toward self-empowerment are inspiring. Yet, the overuse of toxic behaviors to drive the plot diminishes the overall enjoyment.

In conclusion, this drama is a mixed experience. It deserves credit for highlighting critical issues like abuse but struggles with pacing and emotional fatigue due to its reliance on gaslighting. Watch it if you’re prepared for emotional intensity—but don’t expect an easy ride.

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